Selecting your bridesmaids is one of the most important decisions you’ll have to make once you’ve said yes to your Prince Charming. Think of your bridesmaids as you A-Team, your X-Men (women), your support group. They are there to help make your journey to the alter as smooth as possible.
Do you choose your cousin? Your varsity friends? Your childhood friend that you haven’t really seen since the high school reunion? Bae’s sister? STOP! Take a deep breath. Choosing the people who will stand next to you as you say “I do” to that drop-dead handsome hunk that is your soon-to-be husband seems like a daunting task, but don’t fret, we’ll help you navigate through this important part.
The rules are simple.
Rule #1: Think twice. Ask once.
Once you have asked cousin Gertrude (or anyone else for that matter) to be your bridesmaid, then that’s it. You can’t take it back. You cannot simply change your mind. As the kids say: “No Backsies!”. It might seem like a great idea to ask all your friends, sisters and cousins the second you get that diamond on your finger, it’s not! The best thing you can do is to give yourself time. One of the questions you should ask yourself during this process is… “Will I still be close to this person 10 years from now?” And if you’re on the fence about asking someone, them rather not. Trust your instincts.
Rule #2: Honesty is the Best Policy
What role do you want your bridesmaids to play in the planning of the wedding? Are they required to buy their own bridesmaids dresses? Are they required to attend all pre-wedding day parties? Will they be going wedding dress shopping with you? If you would like to have bridesmaids that are hands-on then it’s not the best ides to choose someone who lives far. Leave out friends who are unable to commit for any reason.
Rule #3: Family Matters
Yes, mom is right. Choose your sister to be one of the bridesmaids, even if you’re not very close. The reason for this is, your sister will be in your life well past your 20-year anniversary and asking her to be part of your X-Men (women) might bring you ladies closer. If you come from a big family and can’t possibly ask all your sisters to be bridesmaids, ask some of them to be part of the wedding by having them read your favourite love poem.
Once you’ve selected, you’re A-Team, the next step will be to shop for their bridesmaids’ dresses. Contact a consultant at Cinderella’s Closet for your unique bridesmaid dresses.